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  • 4 Things We Wish We Knew About $ex Before We Were Married

     

     

    When it comes to Christians and newlywed sex, there are usually two extremes.

    For some couples, they head toward the altar with the expectation that they will find themselves soon lost in ecstasy and passion—a reward from God for staying pure until marriage. For others, the idea of $ex carries a lot of anxiety and fear—as he or she tries to figure out what messages of $ex are “real” between the portrayal we see in culture, the Church’s teaching, and one’s future spouse’s expectations. To add to this, the reality is that 80 percent of unmarried Christians ages 18 to 29 have already had—or are having—$ex, as reports indicate.

    As with most extremes, there is some truth to these for some couples. However, the majority tend to find themselves somewhere in the middle.

    This was the case for us personally as our first few times were a little awkward. Three days into our honeymoon we found ourselves in Barnes and Noble trying to find a book to help us figure things out in the bedroom. We’d read a number of Christian books about $ex prior to getting married, and they were very helpful in terms of the theological and relational aspect of $ex, but not so helpful on the supremely practical “how to” aspect—and more specifically, how to do it well and mutually enjoy it.
    Compatibility isn’t something that can be tested out in a trial run. Rather it’s something that you build together.

    Our honeymoon was eight years ago now, and you might say we’ve learned a lot since then. But looking back to the very beginning, here are four things we think every couple should known before their wedding night:

    1. Expect to be sexually incompatible at first.

    One of the common arguments used in favor of sleeping together outside of marriage is the importance of sexually compatibility. But in reality, compatibility isn’t something that can be tested out in a trial run. Rather it’s something that you build together through shared $exual experience.

    Just like anything you want to get good at, $ex takes practice. You don’t expect to just pick up a guitar for the first time and play Mumford & Sons covers, so why would you expect electrifying compatibility right off the bat?

    $exual incompatibility is a simple fact of every marriage when it first starts out (especially if you are both virgins), but all that really means is that you can now enjoy the process of learning with each other. That is the beauty a life-long commitment to marriage brings: lots of time to practice, practice, practice. And in this context, practice can actually be quite fun. The more you both learn about how your bodies’ work and what you both like, the better $ex will be for both of you.

    2. Take your time.

    Amidst the hormones and the excitement of your first time together, it is far better to go slow and take your time. For most women, it is normal for $ex to be a little painful and uncomfortable at first. And this, for some, can change the pace of honeymoon intimacy. As great as some marriage books and pre-marital counseling can be, this is one of the reasons it’s good to also consult a gynecologist before the wedding. And a word for men—go slow and be understanding.

    3. Your $ex life will have ups and downs just like anything else.

    For every couple, it is normal to have ups and downs in your sex life. You will have some stretches when $ex couldn't be better. You’ll have mutually satisfying, pure-fun $ex—and you’ll have it multiple times a day. Then you’ll have some stretches where the rest of life has left you fried, and keeping things going in the bedroom will take some work.

    Stress, work deadlines, housework, busy schedules, pregnancy, kids, financial issues, health issues and any other thing you can think of that is normal in life all affect our $ex drives. When you hit a down period, rather than taking this as a sign of a waning relationship, take it as a sign you need to be more intentional. You might even “schedule” $ex for a season. Very romantic. It might mean intentionally talking about what you both want or what you could try that is different or new. Or, in some cases it might mean seeing a counselor to work through some things that may be hindering things in the bedroom.

    Expect to have both high spells and dry spells. When you do hit a rough patch, please know that you are not broken or weird because of it. And know that if you commit to working through it together, good things will likely be right around the corner.

    4. $ex depicted in the movies leave some things out—including one very important thing we tend to overlook.

    When it comes to $ex in the movies, there are lots of things that the writers leave out when putting together their scripts. Like when your sweater gets stuck over your head, or shoe laces become an impossible puzzle. Or the ever-romantic moment when you have to stop to think about birth control. Or how about when one of you is ready to go while the other just isn’t quite feeling in the mood.

     

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  • Palestinian firefighters arrive to help put out the flames across Israel

    Palestinian firefighters arrive to help put out the flames across Israel
    Across the country hundreds of fire-fighters spread out to battle the wildfires raging in Haifa, Modi’in, Rishon Lezion and many other locations.

    As fires raged across Israel Thursday evening eight Palestinian fire fighting crews arrived to Israel to put out the flames.

    Four crews entered in the north though the Gilboa crossing to assist teams in Haifa.

    An additional four crews were sent to help with the fires in the Jerusalem area.Across the country hundreds of fire-fighters spread out to battle the wildfires raging in Haifa, Modi’in, Rishon Lezion and many other locations, a sense of existential emergency has begun to emerge. Among fire-fighters, rhetoric has been transformed from talk of fighting flames to that of fighting a battle.

    “We are at war,” Haifa Fire Service spokesman Uri Chibutro told Maariv. “It is very important to listen to all the personnel. At the moment the fire is not under control, and I advise everyone to listen to rescue teams and emergency instructions.”

    As of Thursday night 67 people remained hospitalized from fire related injuries. One person was moderately injures, the rest were lightly injured.

    Eliyahu Kamisher contributed to this report.

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  • Bizarre theory suggests Donald Trump was born in PAKISTAN

    Before he was adopted and taken to America when his parents died in a car accident Trump was born in Pakistan according to the  News.

    A bizarre claim that Donald Trump was born in Pakistan before being adopted and taken to America has emerged online.

    Pakistani news channel Neo News ran an extraordinary report suggesting that the President-elect was born as Dawood Ibrahim Khan in Waziristan in 1946.

    Viewers immediately ridiculed the story, which was aired on Neo News last month before the election but has recently re-surfaced. 

    In the news report, the presenter claims: 'Believe it or not, Presidential candidate Donald Trump was born in Pakistan and not in America.' 

    The news channel also showed a picture of a young blond boy, which they claimed was a young Trump in Pakistan. 

    The bizarre theory is that Trump was taken to London by a British-Indian army captain, after his birth parents died in a car accident, before being adopted and taken to America in 1955. 

    Social media users took to Twitter to mock the news report.

    One person tweeted: 'Seriously!????!!! . Pakistani news channel claims Trump was born in Pakistan !!! Seriously ????'

    Another said 'This is insane', while one person simply added: 'Lol... Pakistani media is reporting Donald Trump was born in Pakistan!'  

    A series of unfounded tweets appear to be have been behind the report, with one person suggesting that Trump had been born into a Muslim family.

    Prior to standing for President, Trump himself had for months fueled conspiracy theories over whether Barack Obama was born in the US, and thus eligible to be president. 

    An exasperated Obama called this nonsense and held a press conference in 2011 to show off his birth certificate, which stated that he was born in Hawaii.  

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